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What makes you happy

At the start of every day how do you feel when you wake up? I know for me personally i am half asleep, wanting a coffee, and feeling optimistic thinking about what the day is going to bring. It's not always been this way for me. There was a time in my life when i dreaded waking up every day, as i battled with depression. But even when i was going through my darkest times, looking back now i know there was always moments in my day when i would smile, or sometimes laugh.

The point i am trying to make in this blog, is that no matter how low you feel there is always something that will bring on a smile. Whether that's a funny moment you have seen whilst watching the TV, or someone saying something that makes you laugh, maybe just being out in the fresh air with the sun shining can bring on that all important smile. 

So, what makes you happy, I mean truly happy?. My happiness comes when i sing, i absolutely love belting out a tune. My family make me happy, they can drive me mad at times, but they also make me laugh really hard. whatever it is that brings about your smile, do it more often. And if you really want to help yourself, keep a journal of all the things that have either made you smile or laugh in your day. 

As a society we have got used to so much doom and gloom that we automatically focus on what is negative in our lives. So let's flip that on it's head, and start focussing on the good stuff. 

The roof over your head

The body that carry's you from a to b

Your family

And most important your health

Now is the time to start being truly happy, and appreciate the little things in life

New Year New Start. New Year Resolution

New Year Resolution Taking you in a new direction

As we move into 2023 we start to think about the changes that can be made to our lives

Maybe you want to lose weight

Stop Smoking

Become more confident

Beat a fear or phobia

Get rid of the anxiety that has been holding you back in 2022

Beat an addiction

Cut down on your alcohol intake

All of the above intentions are real, but why is it that most of our intentions are gone 

by January or February? 

Well, humans are creatures of habit, and when the going get's tough 

our resolutions are harder to maintain, and so we revert to our old and trusted ways

because that is where our comfort zone is

But it does not have to be like this in 2023, because therapy can give you the focus you need to stick to your goals, and help you to stay on track no matter what your resolutions are. 

So this New Year, forget sitting back and only thinking about those changes and resolutions, but take that first step to becoming the best you in 2023

Cool down as the temperature rises

Helping you cool down as the temperature rises

Temperatures are rising in the UK, and all over the world due to climate change 

I have seen a spike in clients struggling more with sleep ,and stress since the hot weather kicked in. i noticed even in myself my mood had changed, i have been feeling really agitated, and my clients have been mentioning the same thing.


 We are aware of seasonal affective disorder, this is when peoples moods change in the winter due to a lack in serotonin, once the sun comes out your serotonin rises, and our mood gets better. But what about how are moods are affected in the summer? In the summer months our cortisol hormone rises, and in turn causes us to become angry, grumpy, and agitated, and on top of this effects our sleep”.


I started wondering how i could help everyone to cool down in this heat, as a hypnotherapist i know that using your imagination, whilst in a state of induced relaxation by focusing your attention works wonders, so i have introduced a technique to cool everyone down,  It is so easy that anyone can do it.


Not only will the recording cool you down in this heat, but it will reduce your stress levels, and help you have a better nights sleep.

To access my free summer cool down recording got to: www.essex-hypnosis.co.uk/downloads

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Fixing sleep issues

Our Latest Blog Entry

5 May 2021

Fixing Sleep Issues with the Power of Hypnosis

As we come out of the other side of the pandemic

It has affected many of our daily routines, and one of its biggest reported impacts has been that on sleep - sleep becomes more elusive when we are anxious.

Many people are suffering sleep issues for the first time in their lives:

• awake for long periods

• unable to fall asleep at all

• wake up several times during the night

• more intense and emotional dreams

• tired and groggy the next morning

• find it difficult to concentrate or function properly

• feel irritable

But good sleep stratagems will help you sleep well and can limit the negative effects of poor sleep.

Try these FIVE hints for calmer and better sleep.

1 Limit news intake and avoid your mobiles and tablets for at least an hour before bed

Do something to boost your mood before bed - a humorous television programme or an uplifting podcast can help you sleep

2 Have structure to your day

Our brains and bodies love structure. Wake, exercise, eat and sleep at similar times each day

3 Focus on your breathing

Think about resting rather than sleeping. Follow your breathing by silently whispering the words ‘in’ and ‘out’ to induce sleep.

4 Learn to relax

Relaxation can switch off the stress response, physically and mentally. Find something that works for you - mindfulness meditation, progressive muscle relaxation, deep breathing or a long hot bath.

5. If you can’t sleep - get out of bed

Your bed should not be a battleground. Instead, try to enjoy the sensation of merely resting.


Hypnosis can help many forms of sleep issues.

If you are not sleeping well, and traditional treatments are not working, hypnosis may be able to help you sleep the way you deserve.

It uses different approaches to induce relaxation, such as focused attention, symptom control and guided imagery.

And, unlike sleep medications, it has no side effects, so it can be an aid for those who can’t or don’t want to take sleeping pills.

It can help overcome bedtime restlessness - ease the worry, tension and anxiety that prevent sleep - and can show the way to the deep, restorative sleep that we all need.

To get started, download this complimentary hypnosis recording. And take the first steps on the road to better sleep!

Click on the link below for your free sleep recording

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Coronavirus - Coping With The Chaos�?�How To Manage Uncertainty in Uncertain Times

Coronavirus - Coping With The ChaosHow To Manage Uncertainty in Uncertain Times

The world is in the grip of a global pandemic.

We are living in extremely uncertain times - and that uncertainty can be difficult to cope with.

You may feel worried right now.You may struggle to keep anxious thoughts in check.And you may feel unsure about the future.But help is at hand - you CAN learn to live with uncertainty.

Facing Uncertainty is Scarier than Facing Physical Pain

In 2016, a group of London researchers explored how people react to being told they will either "definitely" or "probably" receive a painful electric shock. They discovered an intriguing paradox.

Volunteers who knew they would definitely receive a painful electric shock felt calmer and were measurably less agitated than those who were told they only had a 50 percent chance of receiving the electric shock.

A new study shows that the uncertainty of something bad happening can be

more stressful than the knowledge of something bad happening.

Researchers recruited 45 volunteers to play a computer game in which they

turned over digital rocks that might have snakes hiding underneath.

Throughout the game, they had to guess whether each rock concealed a

snake. When a snake appeared, they received a mild but painful electric

shock on the hand.

Over the course of the game they got better about predicting under which

rocks they’d find snakes, but the game was designed to keep changing the

odds of success to maintain ongoing uncertainty.

 

And when we’re facing outcomes imbued with uncertainty, it’s the fact that

something bad might happen that “gets” us.

 

The volunteers’ level of uncertainty correlated to their level of stress. So, if

someone felt “certain” he or she would find a snake, stress levels were

significantly lower than if they felt that maybe they would find a snake.

In both cases, they’d get a shock, but their stress was loaded with added


uncertainty.

Archy de Berker from the UCL Institute of Neurology said: "Our experiment

allows us to draw conclusions about the effect of uncertainty on stress. It

turns out that it's much worse not knowing you are going to get a shock than

knowing you definitely will or won’t.”

Uncertainty Ignites our Primitive Survival Instinct

If we can’t neutralise a perceived threat, we engage in the unhelpful process called “worry”.

We grapple with whatever the problem is to find solutions to the threat, but there are none.

Does this make us feel better? No, of course it doesn’t - it makes us feel worse.

In our need for certainty, we are wired to “catastrophise” - we view or talk of a situation as worse than it actually is. This leads to worry, which in turn leads to anxiety.

The modern brain struggles to distinguish between real threat and perceived threat.

The result is that the primitive brain takes over and triggers the primitive survival instinct - fight-or-flight.

It asks questions:

What is going to happen...? What is around the corner for me...?

Should I be doing less...?

Should I be doing more...?

What if my business is threatened...? What if my livelihood is threatened...?

What if my life is threatened...?

The lack of answers can lead to:

 

Anger

Aggression

 

Frustration

 

What Can we do to Mitigate Uncertainty?

There are a number of things we can do to lessen the effects of uncertainty:

Awareness is your superpower - be aware of your feelings and emotions

Notice the “worry story” you are telling yourself - try to distance yourself from it

Focus on breathing - long slow breaths

Recognise the need to rise above fight-or-flight• Accept uncertainty - allow yourself to stop the struggle

Stand up to Anxiety with Some Mood-Boosters

• Exercise and movement

• Meditation, self hypnosis

• Achievement-oriented activity

• Something pleasant or fun

Just 15 minutes a day, focussing on yourself, will help you regain a sense of balance.

The more you practice all these strategies, the better you will become! To help you with the mood-boosting, check out my free download.

Just go to downloads to receive your free gift.

 

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